Did HE just say..."Vagina"
I am sitting here right now paying bills, while my little Man Preston is sitting across from me coloring. I can't help but look at him coloring right now, he seems so innocent. I often wonder what runs through his little head. Well today, I got a little piece of that action while we were at the doctors office. I have a lot of Mom's ask me, "What's it like to have a 4 year old boy?" In honor of that question, I feel like I should share today's adventure.
I spend most of my days, explaining things, asking Preston to pick up, making sure that he is playing nicely with the babies (when I allow for that to happen.) I try to encourage him to leave them alone, but I find that when I encourage him to leave them alone, it causes him to want to get closer and closer. This morning we had to go in for Parker's follow up appointment ( a true follow up on my POST, Parker shows signs of Respiratory Distress.) We and when I say "WE" I really mean.. Me, Juliana, Preston and Parker are sitting in the doctor office. Oh yea baby... I get to ride 3 deep when I bring ONE kiddo to their doctor appointment... The nurse comes in and asks her questions and then we wait... While we are waiting, I can't help to think to myself... and I thought that I had it hard with ONE!
Here's MY Nitty Gritty Truth on little boys and their BIG personalities!
Two babies, One Toddler and ONE Mama hanging out in a doctors office. Preston is sitting nicely in a little yellow chair & Juliana is sitting quietly in their double stroller. (Which by the way, I LOVE... Twin Triumph MUST HAVE!) and as I hold Parker, it hits me. I NEVER go ANYWHERE with ONE child. What would that be like? Imagine all the free arms I would have... Imagine all the free TIME I would have. I then think, I cannot believe that when I had ONE baby, I actually thought it was challenging. I mean, I had to actually get MYSELF and ANOTHER person dressed before I left the house. "You Don't know, What You Don't know!" A little time of reflection for me this morning...
Dr. Kelly then comes in and asks, "How is Parker doing..." I happily tell her, "That I think that he is getting through this and I feel like his breathing has gotten a lot better!" She thenstarts trys to start her exam on the little man. Preston looks up and sees that LITTLE BROTHER is getting some attention. Therefore, he starts to ask to be "checked out." Mommy, he says "I really NEED to get my eye looked at, I think that it's red again." I tell him Preston, honey. I think that you are just fine. If Dr. Kelly has time AND if she thinks that you need a check up, I'm sure that she will check you out. Ummmm, totally didn't really think that. I just was trying to get him to feel, well you know... important.
Preston then starts to relax, he asked to play my phone and I happily said YES! Anything to keep him occupied at this point. Dr. Kelly then starts to "TRY" to listen to Parker's lungs... PARKER is talking it up now, he starts to scream a little in his happy baby voice, as he tightens every limb attached to him. He continues this and I'm thinking, really buddy? He is normally so relaxed. This goes on a few minutes, then he calms down (to the point of her having the ability to HEAR) and she find that his LUNGS are CLEAR! Whooo hooo! I think I may have even said that out loud.
Parker is pretty much done with his check up, just one last thing to do; and Preston starts again. This time, poor little Juliana was his victim. He starts to go and dance a little in her face, then he lays directly on her while she is sitting in the stroller. I look over, as I am trying to hold Parker down on this HIGH TABLE so that Dr. Kelly can look into his ears. I tell Preston, go sit down Buddy. SURPRISE, he DOESN'T listen. I am really trying to approach this in my really sweet "Mama Voice" since we are at our DOCTOR and all. I kindly ask him again, "Preston, get away from her. Grab my phone and sit down." He looks at me with his, little man smile. Yea know... the one that says, haha Mommy... YOU'RE BUSY! I then look at Dr. Kelly, asking her if she would let me take care of this... She gladly approved! As soon as Preston saw Mommy, MY HANDS FREE... he IMMEDIATELY sat down and played his game. Thanks Buddy, I say.
At this point, Parker's ears are not so great. They are putting him on another round of antibiotics. YUCK! I place Parker back in his stroller sitting next to Juliana. Preston then runs behind me as Dr. Kelly is trying to write out Parker's prescription. I ask him, Buddy... are you hiding? He laughs. Then laughs a little more. Then he YELLS OUT, "Mama, I am hiding behind your FFFVagina..." Oh. OK. I think my face might be 3 shades of RED right now. I pick Preston up and say, "I think someone is craving some attention." He is in my arms laughing, pointing at my nose, trying to grab anything and everything he can get his hands on. Gotta LOVE this 4 year old BOY syndrome.
You see, with Preston being 4 and Violet 5, I am talking to them a lot about their privates; covering them, protecting them etc... I am making sure that they KNOW that their privates are just that, THEIR SPECIAL PARTS that GOD GAVE THEM! We mainly say privates, but I have been talking to Violet about the "medical" name. I don't want my kids just to know their little areas as "Pet names" So, when Preston shouts out "Vagina" in the middle of the doctors office, I was SURPRISED. I felt a little embarrassed. I even felt a little ashamed that he would say that. I didn't know how it would be perceived.
Now that I really have the opportunity to think about the situation. I'm sure that being embarrassed was a valid feeling, but NO WAY should I have felt ashamed. I want them to know what their proper name to their "Private Parts." I want them to be able to PROTECT them.
Our interesting doctors appointment came to an end. Preston left with a lollipop and a smile & Mommy, left feeling like a HOT MESS!
Moral of the story, taking 3 kids to the doctor can be a challenge. I wonder if when I leave there if I look as scrambled as I feel sometimes. I mean, I bring the phone, the games, the stuff to keep him entertained. But, if there is ONE OUNCE of feeling the NEED of a little ATTENTION, NONE of that stuff works. I try to love on them instead of getting angry or annoyed (which is VERY CHALLENGING FOR ME). I ask myself, "What good is getting angry going to do?" I may look a little stressed because I want them to OBEY on FIRST COMMAND, but then I have to bring it back to what I learned with Violet. If the crave of LOVE is there from your child. It needs to be fulfilled. It's getting them to the area you want them to be, in a more PEACEFUL manor! Who couldn't use a little MORE PEACE in their lives.
So, as I sit here and watch my little man color, I take in this time with him. I am laughing with him, I am encouraging him, I am watching the creativity flow and I see this very colorful snake that he created.
He is an AWESOME kid, with a BIG, LOUD, EXCITED, ENERGETIC, ENTHUSIASTIC, PERSONALITY. I chose, to EMBRACE IT (as hard as it can be sometimes.)
That's MY Nitty Gritty Truth,
Anne
I spend most of my days, explaining things, asking Preston to pick up, making sure that he is playing nicely with the babies (when I allow for that to happen.) I try to encourage him to leave them alone, but I find that when I encourage him to leave them alone, it causes him to want to get closer and closer. This morning we had to go in for Parker's follow up appointment ( a true follow up on my POST, Parker shows signs of Respiratory Distress.) We and when I say "WE" I really mean.. Me, Juliana, Preston and Parker are sitting in the doctor office. Oh yea baby... I get to ride 3 deep when I bring ONE kiddo to their doctor appointment... The nurse comes in and asks her questions and then we wait... While we are waiting, I can't help to think to myself... and I thought that I had it hard with ONE!
Preston - Jan 2013
Here's MY Nitty Gritty Truth on little boys and their BIG personalities!
Two babies, One Toddler and ONE Mama hanging out in a doctors office. Preston is sitting nicely in a little yellow chair & Juliana is sitting quietly in their double stroller. (Which by the way, I LOVE... Twin Triumph MUST HAVE!) and as I hold Parker, it hits me. I NEVER go ANYWHERE with ONE child. What would that be like? Imagine all the free arms I would have... Imagine all the free TIME I would have. I then think, I cannot believe that when I had ONE baby, I actually thought it was challenging. I mean, I had to actually get MYSELF and ANOTHER person dressed before I left the house. "You Don't know, What You Don't know!" A little time of reflection for me this morning...
Dr. Kelly then comes in and asks, "How is Parker doing..." I happily tell her, "That I think that he is getting through this and I feel like his breathing has gotten a lot better!" She then
Parker & Juliana - Jan 2013
Preston then starts to relax, he asked to play my phone and I happily said YES! Anything to keep him occupied at this point. Dr. Kelly then starts to "TRY" to listen to Parker's lungs... PARKER is talking it up now, he starts to scream a little in his happy baby voice, as he tightens every limb attached to him. He continues this and I'm thinking, really buddy? He is normally so relaxed. This goes on a few minutes, then he calms down (to the point of her having the ability to HEAR) and she find that his LUNGS are CLEAR! Whooo hooo! I think I may have even said that out loud.
Parker is pretty much done with his check up, just one last thing to do; and Preston starts again. This time, poor little Juliana was his victim. He starts to go and dance a little in her face, then he lays directly on her while she is sitting in the stroller. I look over, as I am trying to hold Parker down on this HIGH TABLE so that Dr. Kelly can look into his ears. I tell Preston, go sit down Buddy. SURPRISE, he DOESN'T listen. I am really trying to approach this in my really sweet "Mama Voice" since we are at our DOCTOR and all. I kindly ask him again, "Preston, get away from her. Grab my phone and sit down." He looks at me with his, little man smile. Yea know... the one that says, haha Mommy... YOU'RE BUSY! I then look at Dr. Kelly, asking her if she would let me take care of this... She gladly approved! As soon as Preston saw Mommy, MY HANDS FREE... he IMMEDIATELY sat down and played his game. Thanks Buddy, I say.
MY Little Buckey Man
At this point, Parker's ears are not so great. They are putting him on another round of antibiotics. YUCK! I place Parker back in his stroller sitting next to Juliana. Preston then runs behind me as Dr. Kelly is trying to write out Parker's prescription. I ask him, Buddy... are you hiding? He laughs. Then laughs a little more. Then he YELLS OUT, "Mama, I am hiding behind your FFFVagina..." Oh. OK. I think my face might be 3 shades of RED right now. I pick Preston up and say, "I think someone is craving some attention." He is in my arms laughing, pointing at my nose, trying to grab anything and everything he can get his hands on. Gotta LOVE this 4 year old BOY syndrome.
You see, with Preston being 4 and Violet 5, I am talking to them a lot about their privates; covering them, protecting them etc... I am making sure that they KNOW that their privates are just that, THEIR SPECIAL PARTS that GOD GAVE THEM! We mainly say privates, but I have been talking to Violet about the "medical" name. I don't want my kids just to know their little areas as "Pet names" So, when Preston shouts out "Vagina" in the middle of the doctors office, I was SURPRISED. I felt a little embarrassed. I even felt a little ashamed that he would say that. I didn't know how it would be perceived.
Now that I really have the opportunity to think about the situation. I'm sure that being embarrassed was a valid feeling, but NO WAY should I have felt ashamed. I want them to know what their proper name to their "Private Parts." I want them to be able to PROTECT them.
Preston, Daddy & Violet - Halloween 2012
Our interesting doctors appointment came to an end. Preston left with a lollipop and a smile & Mommy, left feeling like a HOT MESS!
Moral of the story, taking 3 kids to the doctor can be a challenge. I wonder if when I leave there if I look as scrambled as I feel sometimes. I mean, I bring the phone, the games, the stuff to keep him entertained. But, if there is ONE OUNCE of feeling the NEED of a little ATTENTION, NONE of that stuff works. I try to love on them instead of getting angry or annoyed (which is VERY CHALLENGING FOR ME). I ask myself, "What good is getting angry going to do?" I may look a little stressed because I want them to OBEY on FIRST COMMAND, but then I have to bring it back to what I learned with Violet. If the crave of LOVE is there from your child. It needs to be fulfilled. It's getting them to the area you want them to be, in a more PEACEFUL manor! Who couldn't use a little MORE PEACE in their lives.
So, as I sit here and watch my little man color, I take in this time with him. I am laughing with him, I am encouraging him, I am watching the creativity flow and I see this very colorful snake that he created.
He is an AWESOME kid, with a BIG, LOUD, EXCITED, ENERGETIC, ENTHUSIASTIC, PERSONALITY. I chose, to EMBRACE IT (as hard as it can be sometimes.)
That's MY Nitty Gritty Truth,
Anne
Anne, I loved this! It's honest AND funny at the same time! I am also a big believer in children knowing the proper names for their private parts. I would assume that Dr. Kelly wasn't shocked by it though, and was possibly even impressed that he DID know the correct term. Had that happened to me, I'm sure I would have been a little embarrassed, too, though. :-) You're doing a wonderful job being a mommy to those precious children of yours. Keep doing what you're doing and you will have 4 amazing, productive, adult members of society (which we can all agree the world needs more of) when you're through!! Also, keep up the blogging. I really enjoy reading YOUR nitty gritty truth! <3 ~Jackie Kuhns Platt~
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